Although platonic parenting may be a new parenting term, it has gained in popularity recently. The following guide will explain this type of parenting as well as how to determine if it is the best style of parenting for your family.
What Is Platonic Parenting?
Platonic parenting is co-parenting with another person without any type of sexual or romantic relationship. For example: a married couple decides to stay together to raise their children instead of getting a divorce.
In this type of relationship, the man and woman date other people and sleep in separate bedrooms. However, legally they are still married.
Another form of this type of parenting occurs when two people decide to have a child together even though they have no romantic relationship.
The couple oftentimes does not marry one another, but instead, concentrate on what is best for the child.
Does Platonic Parenting Work?
Co-parenting with another person can be difficult; however, when both people are committed to the child, it works well.
Both parents must understand that there will be challenges, so it is important to set clearly defined parenting roles and rules.
Why Consider Platonic Parenting
Platonic parenting is perfect for those who are not in a romantic relationship but want to have children. If you have a friend who wants to become a parent, you may want to consider this type of parenting arrangement.
Talk with your friend to determine if they are interested in co-parenting.
If you and your spouse have children and you are considering divorce, you may want to consider platonic parenting.
This arrangement helps keep the family unit intact and helps avoid many of the issues surrounding a divorced family.
Pros and Cons of Platonic Parenting?
One of the main advantages of platonic parenting is both parents work together for their kids.
Additionally, it is simpler to raise a child in one household rather than in two separate households.
This arrangement helps simplify the parenting process and eases the burden of childcare.
The disadvantages surrounding co-parenting is often due to keeping your feelings for the other parent in check.
If you are married and staying together for the sake of the children, or if you have decided to co-parent with a friend, you must be able to work together for the good of the child.
Platonic Parenting Rules
Before trying platonic parenting, you and the other parent must be honest and decide if this is the best choice for the children.
Additionally, you may need to determine the rules each parent will follow. For example, dating is allowed; however, the kids will not be introduced to who you are dating.
No matter what you decide, you should keep your children your first priority. Choosing to do things or avoid doing certain things for the benefit of your child will help ease any issues surrounding co-parenting.
Making decisions for the sake of your child will smooth over any rough spots in your co-parenting relationship.
A child who has two parents involved in his or her life often fares better than those with divorced parents.
More info and resources: Family By Choice: Platonic Partnered Parenting by Rachel Hope