It’s easy to look at another person and see the good in them. If you have a friend who doubts himself or his ability, you are probably quick to remind him of all of his strengths. Self-reflection, however, is much more difficult. If you let them, all the pesky little doubts in the back of your mind can come to the forefront and cause you to shy away from experiences and opportunities.
Obviously, that is no way to live life. Low self-esteem can have an impact on your relationships and your level of happiness. To stop that from happening, it is imperative that you work on your confidence. Luckily, that isn’t as hard to do as it sounds. The information that follows can help you reclaim your life and improve your self-esteem.
1. Shower Yourself with Kindness
You may find yourself harping on all the things you do wrong each day. After all, it is unfortunately the bad things that often remain firmly rooted in our memories. However, you have to take the time to be kind to yourself. Start a journal, and at the end of each day, write down three great things that you did or that you are proud of. Whenever you feel down, refer back to your journal to give yourself a little reminder of all of your positive traits.
Surround yourself with positive people. If you have friends or family members that speak negatively, it is only natural that you will begin to do so as well. You don’t have to cut these individuals out of your life completely, just spend less time with them.
2. Cut Out the Negativity
Each time you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, stop and allow yourself to dissect the statements. As you carefully consider whether there is any truth to what you are thinking, remind yourself of everything that you do well. You should begin to see that the situation is not as bad as you are making it out to be.
Remember that things are not cut and dry. Certainly, you will make mistakes. Everyone does. However, how you respond to a mistake is the most important part of the experience. Choose to focus on the positive, and you will be much happier as a result.
3. Embrace Compliments
If you surround yourself with positive people, chances are that you will receive a few compliments every now and again. Instead of outright dismissing them, or feeling embarrassed about them, really listen to what the person is saying about you. Remember, no one is forcing them to be nice; they are making the statement because they truly like you and believe what they are saying. Allow yourself to believe it, too.
4. Embrace Opportunities
If a positive opportunity presents itself to you, jump at it. Self-doubt often arises from hesitation. The longer you wait, the more time you have to tell yourself that you aren’t good enough, that you shouldn’t try because it won’t happen anyway or any number of other negative things.
Believe in yourself enough to take a chance. Sometimes things will work out and sometimes they won’t. But, if you don’t try, you will never know how high you can soar.
Try and implement these strategies over the next month. At that point, take a minute to evaluate where you are in life. How do you feel about yourself? What positive things have occurred as a result of the changes you made? If you invest a little time and energy into the process, you’ll find your self-confidence growing as a result. Isn’t that what you want for your life? After all, everyone deserves to feel good about themselves and their accomplishments.