Have you ever been curious about how there are people who seem to bounce through life without any cares? If someone is unfailingly upbeat and views life positively, it does not always mean that their life is free of worries. It just means that they have learned to be an optimist and they generally see the silver lining in most of life’s situations.
Maintaining an optimistic outlook is not always easy for most of us and it is a skill that needs to be cultivated. But, with patience and practice, you will be able to start to see the sunnier side of life. Here are some ideas to get you started:
#1 – Be aware that this is just a “mood.”
At times, there really will be problems that need to be fixed. But many times when you are feeling low it may just be a normal temporary feeling. It is usually a good idea to examine your feelings or worries and try to decide if it is just a mood or if it is really a problem that you need to be concerned about.
By beginning to separate our feelings and moods from our real problems, we will be learning to acknowledge that we feel low but it is just a passing mood.
#2 – Try to smile more.
You will be surprised how often a simple smile will improve your mood. So be sure to smile at least a few times a day. Smile at the kids, your friends and even strangers. Your smile will probably get one in return and that will enhance your good feelings and overall mood.
Even if your day is not going well or you are feeling a little blue, try a smile. Acknowledge your feelings and be aware that you have control over your moods. To help gain this control, just smile.
#3 – Try to wake up in a good mood.
The optimists in the world wake up thinking that it is going to be a great day. This might look to you like it is easy to say but not so easy to do. But practice and it will become second nature. Every night, before you go to sleep, think a little about what your feelings will be in the morning. Picture yourself waking up full of energy, happy and eager to start the day.
If you make this feeling your last waking thought before sleep, you will most likely be in a great mood when you awaken the next day. It is helpful to take several minutes every night developing this simple habit and then noting how you feel when you awaken.
#4 – Keep a gratitude journal.
It often helps to have a visual reminder of the good parts of our lives. You will be aware of the things you are grateful for in your life by keeping a gratitude journal. In turn, this will help you keep your outlook positive.
Begin by making a list of the simple, but important, things like your home, your family and your health. Then continue making your list with any more specific things for which you are grateful. This journal belongs to you and you can make it fit your particular needs.
#5 – Never let your mood be guided by others.
If the cashier in the grocery store is rude, do not let that affect your mood. Just be aware that her day is probably not going well or she has a personal issue in her life that she is dealing with.
The most effective way to keep your optimistic mood is to ignore negative people and not let their problems affect you. You need to understand that everyone is not necessarily in a good mood but their mood does not have to dictate your feelings. If you learn to control your moods and this becomes a habit, you will find that you will soon develop a level of confidence that will make you optimistic.
Of course, being unending optimistic is not easy and there are times in our lives that challenge us. But, if we can accept that certain parts of our lives cannot be changed, we will be better able to control our moods. Then, we will have taken the first, most positive step to an optimistic life.