We all want our children to feel good about themselves. However, when they start bragging and boasting, it can be a potential problem.
Although it may not be the worst character trait in the world, you’d probably prefer that this behavior didn’t continue.
The first step in addressing the problem is to understand why children brag and boast in the first place.
The next step is to learn how to effectively stop the behavior. So take heart, this problem can be solved!
Why Is Your Child Bragging?
Many experts state that when a child brags it could be the result of having self-esteem issues. At first glance it may appear that your child has too much confidence, when in fact it is just the opposite.
Children with low self-esteem may think they need to brag or boast about themselves or their achievements so that they can feel good about themselves and appear better than others.
Another potential issue that can cause to children to brag is when they still don’t know where they fit in. Whether it is at school or home, children may be the youngest or smallest.
If your child is struggling with these feelings, it may be that he or she doesn’t feel best at anything. It is quite understandable that your child would want to feel like they were important but not quite know how to go about it.
Another common reason why some children may boast or brag about their accomplishments is because they want others to like them. What these kids don’t realize is bragging or boasting is really not something that attracts people, and in fact it is a big turn off.
This behavior can cause people to keep their distance rather than like them. Instead of making friends, children who brag and boast too much can end up feeling alone rather than liked.
One other common reason why children might boast or brag is that they learn the behavior from other family members. Children have a tendency to want to act like older members of the family and will often mimic their behaviors.
How To Stop Your Child From Bragging
So now that you have a better understanding of the reasons why children may boast or brag, you may be wondering what can be done to stop it. One of the most important things you can do is to focus on building your child’s self-confidence.
- Explain to them that people don’t like braggers, and that boasting or bragging isn’t something people want to hear or be around. Teach them to compliment and praise others for their accomplishments instead of trying to make themselves out to be the best.
- Praise your child when he or she does something well. Make sure your son or daughter knows how proud you are of them and how much you love them. If they feel that they are loved and special, they won’t feel as much of a need to boast or brag.
- Make sure you are setting a good example. If your children hears you bragging and boasting, they will want to do the same and think it’s okay. Do acknowledge your child’s accomplishments, but don’t make it into a big deal.
Most people don’t like to listen to bragging and boasting. The important thing is to understand the reasons why your child might be engaging in this behavior, and then work to correct it through positive enforcement.
Whether it is lack of self-esteem, wanting to fit in and be liked or learning the behavior from other family members, this problem can be solved.
Help to build up your child’s self-esteem, praise their accomplishments, let them know how special and loved they are and set a good example for them to follow.
If you do these things, your child will not only start to gain self-confidence, but he or she will also leave their bragging and boasting ways behind them.