Don’t feel bad if you are not a perfect parent, after all no one is born with perfect parenting skills! The parents you admire actually learned everything through trial and error.
Learning from other parents and from your own experiences and mistakes is the best way to improve your parenting skills.
Parenting can be a very unnerving task. Kids constantly need attention, and no matter how hard you try you will still make a few mistakes.
Always remember that YOU are fully accountable for their happiness and well-being. This is a heavy responsibility, especially if you are a first-time parent.
The good part is that you can become a great parent if you work hard on your parenting skills.
The following strategies will help you improve your parenting skills:
1. Learn from Example
If you are a new parent, do not try developing your own parenting methods! You want to be the best parent you can so learn from others who already achieved this status.
* Are some of your friends or relatives currently raising children? Spend plenty of time with them so you can observe them around their children.
* If you are encountering a specific issue, ask your friends or relatives for some advice. They will tell you what they would do in the situation you are facing. You can then use their tips to resolve the parenting issue you are facing.
* Are there any parenting groups in your community? Meeting with a parenting group will give you an opportunity to learn from other parents and to develop good leadership skills.
Keeping communication open with your children is very important. Even if your children are behaving badly or doing something that annoys you, do your best to communicate with them.
* Never forget that you are fully responsible for your child. If you shut off and don’t communicate, you are leaving your child on their own.
* Create an atmosphere that encourages your children to openly communicate with you. They should feel comfortable about talking to you regardless of the situation. They need to know you will be supportive. Children often hold things back if they believe their parents would not understand.
* Let your children know how you feel about what they do. You need to explain how you feel without getting angry.
3. Research Parenting Trends.
Raising children nowadays is very different from what parents did 30 years ago. Learning more about current parenting trends should help you.
* You can learn a lot on the Internet. Read articles written by specialists and interact with other parents on message boards.
* You need to familiarize yourself with the things your children like. You do not have to learn how to play all their favorite games but it is important that you know what they are interested in.
4. Learn from your own Childhood.
Trust your instinct and do your best to learn from your own childhood. You were a child just like the ones you are raising, try remembering what it was like.
* How did your mind work as a child? What were the things you cared about? Can you think of anything your parents did with you that you wish you could do differently or repeat with your children?
* Can you remember a time in your life when your parents had a hard time raising you? If you can remember this, then you will fully understand what is going on if you encounter the same situation with your children.
* A good parent should be very patient. Talk to your parents to get some feedback and some tips on how they raised you.
These guidelines should help you get started in your journey to become a better parent. Remember that every parenting scenario is unique. You need to determine the best approach in function of your child’s personality and of the energy between you and your child.
The relationship between a parent and their child is very special. Stop worrying about the little details, trust your instinct and do the best you can!